5 Ways Blaming Hurts Relationships…and what to do about it.
While I have written much on the negative effects of blaming on relationships, my focus has been on the deleterious effects on the blamer and how this impacts the relationship.
I have recently had the good fortune to connect with Dr. Tom Jordan, a clinical psychologist and owner of the Love-Life Learning Center. Dr. Jordan has written about blaming from the point of view of a relationship expert and has described how being the blamee negatively effects your relationships.
I’d like to discuss several issues that Dr. Jordan has written about and I encourage everyone to go to the source and read Dr. Jordan’s Love-Life Website blogs
1) Chronic blaming is a form of emotional abuse. Dr. Jordan asserts that chronically being blamed for an act that you did not actually commit is like taking a verbal beating. I agree with this and further suggest that even if this was something that you actually were responsible for, but meant no harm, constantly getting blamed is still an inappropriate and non-productive form of communication between lovers, friends, or family members.